Disclaimer: The subject of this post is human sexuality in the context of Christian belief. It is intended for mature audiences. If you are under the age of 18 you should have your parents read it and judge if it is appropriate for you to read. Parents, lighten up about this with your teens because quite frankly I am trying to undo a lot of Christian mistakes in informing and educating people about sex. You have been warned and encouraged, enter at your own risk. Also, I am by no means a sexual expert, just a guy who has been married to the same woman for 25 plus years and a pastor who has for what ever reason been exposed to a lot of sexual issues during his ministry. If you don’t find your answer here, keep searching there is probably someone out there that has it.
I suppose the thought of having sex outside has always been with the human race. I am going to have to postulate that Adam and Eve first got it on in the grass of the Garden of Eden. The fact is there is a spiritual dynamic because of Adam and Eve that seems to call us to being naked, unashamed and one flesh – outside. That is after all the picture the story before the Fall portrays as one of freedom and intimacy in the great outdoors. . The problem of course is that sin entered the world and with that a whole bunch of social and religious rules and expectations. Mostly the effect has been the expression when a couple is getting a little too friendly – “Hey, get a room.” In short please don’t do sex outside where I might or can see you.
I don’t know, form a spiritual point of view I think something has been lost and I also think certain cultures have less of an expectation of privacy when a couple is doing it. I mean sex is not inherently a dirty thing but a beautiful one, so why the need for demanding other people be private about it? I am not sure, but I don know that if being naked with your spouse outdoors could be a wonderful spiritual experience, as I have postulated in my various series of nakedness, it seems the ultimate form of intimacy known as sex would also be a wonderful experience outdoors. The question is not this or even what the Bible says (it says nothing about where you are to have sex, it deals almost exclusively with who you can have sex with) but is ultimately about what society and the couple is comfortable with.
In most places in western society there seem to be a little ‘wink, wink’ going on when it comes to sex outside. For many there is a kind of ‘its only illegal if you get caught’ attitude. The problem is that in this same society having sex outside and being caught can have serious legal repercussions. It is this fear, that actually keeps most people indoors and to be honest a Christian is going to run headlong into the problem that the Bible tells us to obey the laws of the land we dwell in. That said their are still a few legal ways to have sex outside by simply not doing it in public places where you could be observed and subject to the law. In short private property and in a place where observation would be difficult or impossible without the observer breaking the law themselves. If doing it outside is one of your things then you should be ready in western society to work at finding a place that is private and outdoors.
In part this is because you want this to be an intimate experience with just the two of you anyway. I mean if your goal is to experience sexuality on all levels and not a goal of shocking others. The Christian goal is not to offend others but enrich one’s own marriage so even sex outside is somewhat a private matter between the two of you form a Christian perspective. It is about growing together by adding the factor of being outside in the nature of the world together that adds the new spiritual and physical dynamic.
All this said, the actual physical experience can be a case of it’s not all that it is cracked up to be. I have lost count of the stories I have heard of outside sex disaster. Finding yourself laying on an anthill or coming to a true understanding that beach sand can find its way into every nook and cranny of your body can be uncomfortable experiences and probably stand as a warning that all outdoor sex should be done with a little more planning than being spontaneous. At the same time nearly all of the horror studies I have heard could have been prevented with some basic precautions and preparations. There is also something to be said for accepting that there are some things you simply won’t experience and being OK with that.