I am a pretty patient guy and this is not what I wanted to write my opinion piece on this week. I would much rather be talking about Obama and the Crusades but I have a problem with people being stupid. Now I have no problem with people who are lacking in knowledge or intelligence and they end up doing something stupid. Sometimes we just don’t know all the things we need to know or just can’t figure things out. My problem is wilful stupidity. That is people who go out of their way to be stupid or ignorant even when it has been shown what they are doing is stupid. If you are ignorant or stupid fine, just don’t be proud of it and you will be fine with me.
The problem currently is Christian’s are showing their wilful stupidity right now in regards to the phenomena known as Fifty Shades of Grey. Now I will confess that I have read only the first few chapters of the first book ( I think I got to the first sex scene and found it unrealistic – I mean a virgin woman a) orgasms the first time and b) had a orgasmic response to here nipples being sucked – very rare and with that it lost me) and I have no plans to see the movie. I had two problems with the book. 1) it is poorly written (seriously, how many times can a woman bite her lip?) and 2) it was connected to Twilight as fan fiction. The whole vampires in love thing, I just don’t agree with or get so I really didn’t get into it, but now a bunch of Christians are of course out their campaigning against a movie. I sigh deeply.
Number one the worst thing you can do to any movie is ignore it. By actually coming out against it you are giving it attention and stirring up controversy which are two things that the producers of the movie will use to promote it. The nature of this film and book are controversial anyway so adding more just fuels its success. That is why the book has been selling so to make the movie more controversial will draw more attention to it and cause people who probably would not see it to go and see it to see what the controversy is about. It seem we should have learned this from The Last Temptation of Christ and onward, but no.
Secondly, if you are going to make criticism against movie make sure you do your homework. Christians have been going on and about how the movie promotes abuse to women and the evil of BDSM. This shows a wilful ignorance of the plot of the book (plot is a term I use loosely here) and the nature of BDSM. It might be argued that if a woman voluntarily enters a BDSM relationship because it is what she wants in her sex life; it can’t be considered abusive. The main female character wilfully enters the relationship with Mr. Grey. He didn’t kidnap her or force her to do this and in BDSM there are rules that are established so abuse does not take place. The submissive actually has the final word with a safe word that allows her to stop the situation. I doubt most abusive relationships get this.
For my full view on BDSM read the following:
Finally, I restate for the record. What people do in their private sex lives in neither the state’s or the church’s business. By trying to control people’s sex lives, the church is engaged in what I would cultic behavior. Biblically the church really has no authority here. It really is between the couple and God directly and the church is not needed as a middle man or some sort of spiritually judgmental voyeur.
The church in this case is doing their typical knee jerk wilful ignorance on this one. It will have the same effect as all the other times and yet, we will repeat this. What is that saying about doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result? Oh, that’s insanity.