Disclaimer: The subject of this post is human sexuality in the context of Christian belief. It is intended for mature audiences. If you are under the age of 18 you should have your parents read it and judge if it is appropriate for you to read. Parents, lighten up about this with your teens because quite frankly I am trying to undo a lot of Christian mistakes in informing and educating people about sex. You have been warned and encouraged, enter at your own risk. Also, I am by no means a sexual expert, just a guy who has been married to the same woman for 25 plus years and a pastor who has for what ever reason been exposed to a lot of sexual issues during his ministry. If you don’t find your answer here, keep searching there is probably someone out there that has it.
Once you get the life of the citizen established, the Kama Sutra turns its attention to the kinds of women that can be chosen for sexual activity. It should be noted that while the writer makes a bold case that women should learn the Kama Sutra, the book is basically written from the standpoint that only men who were citizens would read it. This is at the time a fairly patriarchal system at the time of writing.
The first kind of woman who is spoken of and highly praised is the use of virgins and that they be of the proper caste for the man. If the man and the woman are of the same caste then it is good to produce children. Consorting with a woman of higher caste is forbidden, but not lower castes provided that one understand that women of a lower caste should only be used in this way for sexual pleasure only. There are thus three kinds of women in the Kama Sutra – maids, women who have already been married and public women. One concession is made for women who are married but because of some special occasion or religious function are available for sex.
The Kama Sutra then goes through a number of scenarios in which this might be true. In the end, though the writer recommends that these special circumstances be the only ones allowed and not simply for carnal desire. Most of them are about gaining favor or political power. At this point the Kama Sutra adds some other special cases of women who can be enjoyed for sex to fulfill the Kama Sutra – a minister’s mistress, the virgin daughter of a public woman, a widow, a woman of proper family. These are basically dismissed though and the writer is left with four types of women that can be resorted to for sex: maids, previously married women, public women and women used for sex in special occasions.
Then the list begins to exclude women that should not be used for sex and the list is a long one. Disease of all types is to be avoided, a woman who is a near relation, or a good friend. There is also much put on the idea of having a woman who is discrete and does not tell secrets and has good character. Otherwise, stay away.
This part ends with a discussion of the types of messenger to be employed when communicating one’s intentions to a prospective woman. Needless to say this comes right out of the book as how to get laid and not get caught basically.
The thing is the Kama Sutra is not as hung up about marriage being the only place for sex. Christianity and the Bible would insist on at least a basic marriage contract before sex should take place. The idea of using public women (prostitutes) is not one the Bible would support nor the idea of engaging a woman for a special occasion if she was married to someone else. Widows being used for sex with no promise of marriage would be frowned on as well. The only thing the two books would complete agree on is the desirability of virgin maids as the best partners for marriage and thus sex. Basically the Bible’s list is much shorter in the area of what is allowed and much longer in what is not allowed. The real business of the Kama Sutra is about to begin. The first subject being the kinds of sexual unions.