Wizard’s fifth rule with Terry Goodkind adds the idea that deeds will betray a lie but it is more than just discovering lies here. You want to know if people are on the up and up, see if their deeds and words line up together. Wan t know the true character of a person look to see if their deeds and words line up. If they don’t, don’t trust them. As a general rule I have learned much of this the hard way.
In my own life I saw people express their love for me as pastor and then lead a revolt against me or to be sure to say something that was attempted control of my life and ministry. Sometimes the words said are the deed as well as words. Gossip and slander are actions not just words. If you find someone who is saying one thing to one person and another to another you might want to hold onto you wallet and keep both eyes open. You know someone is following your leadership when they say yes I will do that and then go out a do it not just when they give lip service.
There is however another challenge to this. That of making sure your own words and actions line up and that is far more challenging because we tend to justify ourselves and engage in a lot of self-deception. It is however essential to character to make sure as best we can to make sure our words match our deeds. Keeping promises, honoring commitments, making sure one’s yes is yes and no is no. The real trick sometimes is just to keep your mouth shut so there are no words to judge in the first place. I hope my children heed this one in particular, it will save them a lot of grief both in dealing with others but also in dealing with themselves.