Disclaimer: The subject of this post is human sexuality in the context of Christian belief. It is intended for mature audiences. If you are under the age of 18 you should have your parents read it and judge if it is appropriate for you to read. Parents, lighten up about this with your teens because quite frankly I am trying to undo a lot of Christian mistakes in informing and educating people about sex. You have been warned and encouraged, enter at your own risk. Also, I am by no means a sexual expert, just a guy who has been married to the same woman for 25 plus years and a pastor who has for what ever reason been exposed to a lot of sexual issues during his ministry. If you don’t find your answer here, keep searching there is probably someone out there that has it.
After touching on the subject of embracing the Kama Sutra changes gears to the subject of kissing. The writer wants to stress that when it comes to the embrace, kissing, pressing and even scratching (later in the text) that there is no real set order for these things but that they are different topics that must be addressed. At this point the writer also stress the idea that these things should be switched up and done in a sense of moderation but passion at least the first times after one gets more familiar with one’s lover all of these things can be done in less moderation but with full passion and can be continued for a long time if the couple wishes.
The writer lists all the places on the body that are appropriate for kissing which is quite extensive and he makes a note that in different cultures and countries what is allowable to be kissed is different but each couple should really follow what is appropriate for them. He starts to differentiate the sexes a little and talks about what is appropriate to kiss on a younger girl (teenager I would imagine). These take the form of types: nominal (lips to lips but the girl does not do anything beyond this), throbbing (which involves the girl reaching up to touch the lips that are touching hers) and touching (touching the lips of her lover with her tongue and at the same time clasping hands). What follows is a discussion on all types and intensities of kisses as well as a discussion on when where and how of kissing in different situations and contexts.
I have to say the Kama Sutra puts a lot of attention on the subject of kissing and perhaps because it does give this attention it means that is placing importance on the topic for someone who wants to be a good lover. In lovemaking, every good lover pays attention to every detail would be the message, including something as seemingly simple as kissing. I can’t fault the advice Biblically and I think there is something to be said for a married couple slowing down a bit and rediscovering the joy of kissing.