I have to give credit where credit is do to my friend Dave Fowler for putting it into a more iron clad form what I used to probably have here which I can’t remember completely anymore. Most people balk at this but if you think you about every time you have obeyed anyone what motivated you? If you think about it long enough you either come back to you feared punishment or consequences or your respected the authority that created and enforces the rules. Maybe it might have been a combination of both but there is little else that motivates us to obedience other than fear or respect. Some might argue that obedience can be compelled by force in some cases and that might be true but unless you talking about some sort of telepathic mind control or something similar, you have it back to fear.
Not that fear is always a bad thing. I have a healthy fear of stepping in front of a bus. Fear also has a way of turning into respect over time. Most of us went from fear of our parents punishments to respect for them and obedience that no longer had do be motivated by fear. Ass children and teens though we might have simple been motivated by fear of punishment but in the end the moment came where we didn’t obey and it hurt our parents and we could see it. Love developed in us a respect (the highest form of love is respect) for them and from that time on we often declined disobedience out of respect for our parents and love for them.
To live life you have to have respect and a healthy fear from time to time. There is a fear that is irrational and false but there are other fears that are legitimate. In either case it helps you learn about people in what motivates them. When we pursue something there is often the whisper of fear behind us that motivates us or respect for the pursuit. Many people want to be rich because they fear being poor, others work to amass power so they can protect themselves and those they love from harm. But still others pursue these things out of respect of what can be done with them for good beyond their own little world and it is these people that not only have respect but earn it in return.
In the end we will never be without them to motivate us. What we can do is figure out what the proper thing should motivate us at the time. I strive personally for respect of what is right to be my motivator but still have to confess at times it is fear that keeps me hopping. The pursuit of this dominates my life when it comes to authority because it is for the most part and inescapable part of life. I have been able to take this point of wisdom to the bank every time.