1 Corinthians 13:4-7:
Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I tell people who this passage has an assumption of garbage behind it. What I mean by that ‘love is patient’ assumes that there is something love needs to be patient about. ‘Is not provoked” assumes there is something trying to do so. “Keeps no record of wrongs assumes there are wrongs that could be recorded but are not. The point simply being that love does not assume everything is roses and warm fuzzies. If anything love displays its greatness mostly in adversity.
That is why the phrase “rejoices in the truth” is very interesting because it does not then assume the truth is always a nice thing. Sometimes the truth is a brutal reality that we cannot ignore and should not ignore. No other definition of love has this quality of saying that the genuine truth should always be rejoiced in. That means the fact that you confront based on the truth is not reason to be sad but rejoicing. You are going to make genuine progress after that not continue to live in lies.
In a church facing the brutal truth is often difficult. We like stability and dislike change. Problem is this definition of love assumes change and that the changes might not always be good ones. Facing he truth of them; however, is the way to progress and not self-deception. Love demands that we face the truth even though it may be uncomfortable and rejoice in that we are going to move forward because of it.
The choice to love is never an easy one. It assumes that we will be opposed and countered. We press on because to be loving is to be a person who faces the brutal truth with goodness and kindness.